Do you find your online dating pursuit just turn into text buddies?
Are you tired of being text buddies?
Are you having trouble getting to the first date?
I’ve noticed a growing trend of men complaining that women just want to be text buddies and that they are looking for something more. What I’ve also experienced , is a major lack of men actually asking a woman on a date! What a concept? There have been time after time I’ve heard from friends and have experienced it myself, men assume that I will hang out with them but never actually ask me out.
- You don’t actually ask her out! This sounds so basic but the truth is with texting and the non nonchalant attitude we’ve created as a society getting asked out on a date seems to be this long lost concept. Women usually read via text something like “So when can I see you?” “When can we hang out?” Or there is the simple assumption that she is available and ready to cater to your every need. Well the truth is women need to feel cherished, so pick up the phone and ask “I’d like to take you out Saturday night, are you available?” It really is that simple.
- You’re too afraid of rejection. Don’t be afraid to ask her out, if she responded to you and she’s ready for a relationship or to date, chances are she is going to say yes. If she does say no, She could legitimately not be available at that time, so just ask for an alternative date. Now if she continues to say no, just don’t take it personally and move on to the next person.
- You want to Hang Out! This is the worst! Most women, depending on the age group, tend to automatically translate hanging Out into having sex! If you are wanting to pursue her for a long term relationship and potentially marriage then court her, be direct and pursue her.
It’s important that you are clear about what you are looking for and that you step into a place where you are ready to take the lead and pursue her. Every woman wants to feel special and cherished. She doesn’t want to feel like she is just an option or that she is your last result for entertainment. So be direct and go after what you want.
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