I recently heard a story about a woman who was in the hospital fighting for her life. She had been stabbed multiple times by a man she had met through an online dating site. It triggered something in me. If I had continued in the same patterns I held in my early twenties, the story could’ve been about me. You see I came out of High School straight into College with no self-esteem or self-confidence and once I discovered my sexuality I started using it to find everything I was lacking. I thought if I just gave men what they wanted, sex, I’d get the same in return. I was very mistaken and it led me down a very dangerous path. I’d connect with men online, agree to meet with them in person and jump right into bed with them. Every time leaving me lost and alone, yet I continued to do the same thing week after week for years. I’m so grateful that I finally discovered my worth and stopped that behavior, if not who knows where I’d be.
When it comes to dating and especially online dating it’s important to make sure we are staying safe. Here are 3 keys to help you stay safe when it comes to dating.
1. If you are meeting someone you haven’t met in person before make sure you speak to them on the phone prior to meeting in person. Pay attention to signs that they are interested in the same thing you are. Also, follow your intuition and awareness. If you are hearing don’t meet them then DON’T! You are honoring yourself when you are listening to your intuition.
2. If you are continuing to attract people who don’t meet your criteria then it’s important to take a look in the mirror and ask why you are attracting who you are attracting. See I was attracting men who were just looking for sex because that is all I felt I had to offer someone.
3. Always, meet this person in a public place and give a friend their contact information and where you are meeting. You can even ask your friend to call or text at a certain time to make sure things are good.